Happy Birthday, Luke

Luke decided it was time to make his appearance. Sooooo, here he is 😍

Born on Saturday, April 13, 2013 at 10:31am weighing 6 lbs and 11 oz at 18.5" long.

And so the story goes...

I had some pains near my navel all night, the last few nights, before his arrival. Sharp pains that took my breath. I was thinking I had an umbilical hernia (ugh hernias SUCK). It seemed like the pain was according to his position. Somehow, I made it through the nights.

I was supposed to begin tapering off of my medications at 36 weeks. I had missed a nifedipine dosage one morning and contracted every 5 min all night one night. Ultrasound and exam showed the contractions didn't do much to my cervix, though. Well, Thursday night I missed another one. My memory isn't my best asset.

Friday was routine weekly stuff with doctors. I got up around ten that morning with a bunch of contractions. Surprise! Not so unusual. I ignored them. Which I became really good at, by the way. A few hurt, but I wasn't doubled over in pain. I'm tough. Not to mention, I was seeing both specialists that day. 

I glanced at my house shoes right before I left for my doctors' appointments. I had my hospital bags in the truck already. I lacked a few items that I use everyday, though like make-up bag, hair stuff, house shoes, etc. As I stared down my house shoes beside my bed, I wondered if I should grab them "just in case." I was always prepared to be admitted at every appointment just in case. You just never know. But nah, I decided to live on the edge and leave them at home. I know, I'm such a rebel.

Josh had an urgent work thing come up last minute and couldn't go to the appointments with me. It was a bummer, and he was really regretful since I was so far along at this point. He rarely missed an appointment, let alone two with one being a growth ultrasound (we loved those, because we got estimated weights!). I sincerely told him that it would be ok, and to go to work. I told him I would call and tell him how much Luke weighed as soon as I knew. I didn't realize he would be the one telling me how much Luke weighed the very next morning!

My Perinatologist was out of town. So, I was supposed to see the head Perinatologist of the group. I had met him once before, and Josh and I absolutely loved him, So, I was good with that, too. The growth ultrasound went well. I had a student sonographer, so the ultrasound took forever. But it was thorough, which makes me happy. Luke looked great. He practiced breathing for us, and he weighed an estimated 6 lbs. He was measuring 2 days behind, though. It wasn't a concern, but didn't make me very happy. I worried about him coming early (righteously so), and wanted him to measure ahead and be as big as he could be. The doctor was on a conference call, and the teacher sonographer said he would be in as soon as he was finished. It was 10 min before my appointment time with my OB downstairs. I decided to skip seeing him since all looked well with the baby, and it would make me run late with my OB. I had a lot of questions about my contractions and some other stuff, but I was going to see my OB anyway.

I headed downstairs quickly. When I was called back, my OB's nurse told me that my doc had an emergency c-section and that I would be seeing a nurse practitioner. Any other day that would have been just fine with me, but I was having a lot of contractions and had questions about them and my meds. I needed my doctor, because she knows my history very thoroughly and has been closely managing my medications with me. Sigh. I was so disappointed. Not to mention she had been checking my cervix for weeks, and was very familiar with me. I was afraid the NP wouldn't be able to distinguish any changes like my doctor would. I had so much going through my mind.

The NP was nice and spoke with me in length about my current situation. When she checked my cervix, she looked a little concerned. And, in turn, that concerned me. She told me I was dilated to about 3 cm. My eyes widened significantly. Three?! Really?! It's been 1 cm for weeks! I told her I had been having contractions all morning, but that I had missed a nifedipine dose. She said she was going to put me on the toco monitor for a while and see what was happening. 

Within 15 minutes, the RN let me know I was contracting every 2 minutes. I knew I was having a lot, but like I said, I was ignoring them. Not counting, not obsessing, finally relaxing and IGNORING those darn things! And now I was being told they might be for real?!

I called Josh to let him know what was going on. We set up a game plan, so he could go home first and feed our dogs in case they admitted me. Just our luck he would miss this particular appointment. At least he wasn't out of town.

After about an hour on the monitor, the NP came back in to check my cervix. She said it was at 4 cm. So, I had dilated 1 cm in an hour?! Oh my. Josh wasn't even home yet, and we live 45 minutes from the hospital. I was starting to worry that I was going to have the baby before he even made it to the hospital. 

My contractions were still 2-3 minutes apart. My OB had completed her C-section and was on her way to the office to see me. It was the end of the day for the clinic and just starting for me.

My OB came in, checked my cervix, called it a 3-4, 80% effaced. She said it looked like the baby may have been in a little distress during the contractions based on his heart rate on the monitor. Something called late decelerations. She asked me where Josh was (he was always with me). I told her the situation and that he would be on his way soon. Very soon. She decided to send me over to L&D. The baby needed to be monitored during contractions. I called Josh and gave him a heads up, trying not to worry or rush him. He was slightly frantic, though.

The nurse brought a wheelchair to the clinic room. Guess this means I can't go get my hospital bags from my vehicle? That would be a nope. She wheeled me through hallways all the way over to the hospital L&D floor, and brought me to a room. No instructions. Just dropped me off and said someone would be up to admit me. Okay. I sat in the glider in the room and waited. And waited. And waited. After quite some time, my OB walked in. She looked surprised that I wasn't in a hospital gown and on the monitors yet. I told her that I hadn't seen a soul since being dropped off. She must have gotten on someone's ass after that. Because shortly after she left, a nurse was in to hook me up immediately, and someone finally came up to do all of the paperwork and admit me. My doctor had decided that they would run some fluids to see if that would slow down my labor any. After all, I was only 36 weeks. 37 weeks is considered full term. If the fluids slowed down or stopped my contractions, I would be sent home. But I mean come on. If fluids could slow my contractions, I don't think I would have been on progesterone and nifedipine for 3 months.

In the mean time, Josh had finally made it. We waited together to see if the fluid would make any difference. In one way, I unrealistically hoped that it would. I needed to go home. I had a maternity shoot scheduled in 2 days. And the session was going to be free, because she had accidentally stood us up earlier in the week. Yeah, seriously. We sat in a parking lot, all dressed up and excited for about 40 minutes before I finally called her. She had put us down for the "wrong day." She was so apologetic that she offered a free shoot. I also needed to go back to work on Monday, so that I didn't lose my benefits. I had a few more meals to cook and freeze at home. It just seemed like things weren't in order, and I wasn't ready. On the other hand, I desperately wanted to hold my little boy already and secretly hoped this was it.

After two liters of fluid, my contractions were still 2-3 minutes apart, but my cervix had went on strike. No more changes. Now what?! The nurse said that since the fluids didn't change my contractions, that they were keeping me over night for observation.

I was moved to a nice delivery suite. Josh brought up all of the bags (including his own). My mom and step dad made the trip, in case Luke decided to come. They hung out in the room and decided to wait it out with us. 

The nurses were checking my cervix every hour. After being moved, my nurse said I was at a good 4 cm, and my water was trying to break.

At around 1:00 am, everyone was sleeping, or trying to sleep. Poor Josh got shafted to a really hard wooden glider that didn't even recline. My mom was asleep in the sleeper chair, and my step dad in a big chair next to her. I finally talked Josh into laying his head on the rolling dinner tray table. He finally listened to me, and the poor guy finally fell asleep. 

Not me, though. Nope! I tried. Wide awake. Too much to think about. Someone was always coming in to check my cervix and do vitals anyway. The nurse popped in and said that my doctor wanted to start Pitocin on me to "speed things up." It was one of those situations where it was going to be lengthy and unpredictable to just wait it out. So, I was semi-ok with induction. I had heard horror stories about Pitocin, though. Stuff about the side effects and how bad it made the contractions hurt, so I double checked that the CRNA was close by. I had already had a thorough history/chat with her, and she knew I wanted an epidural for this delivery. I wanted to go as long as I could without one, though. I actually wanted to see what real contractions felt like. I don't regret that now, but when the "real" ones started, yeah I may have been regretting it then.

Josh decided he would "run home" and feed the dogs their breakfast. That's an hour and a half just in driving. I just knew he was going to miss this kid being born. I asked the nurse how fast the Pitocin would kick in and how quickly I could have this baby. She said it would definitely take longer than 2-3 hours. So, I felt comfortable sending him to take care of our pups at home. If I knew then what I know now, he could have went home, slept, had breakfast, and then came back.

The Pitocin made my contractions more regular. Before the drip, they were any where from 30 seconds apart to 3-4 minutes apart. Eventually, they were coming about every 2-3 minutes at a more regular pace with the Pitocin. They were a little uncomfortable, but still nothing that I couldn't handle, or even talk through. I was slowly dilating, as well. No horrible side effects. I was doing pretty good, and so was the baby!

Around 4:00 am, my OB came to the hospital (it was Saturday, and she wasn't on call). She said she wanted to deliver our baby, if at all possible. She said he needed to come quickly, though. She, too, has an infant son at home and a husband that was working that day. Due to that, she had to leave the hospital at 8:00 am. I gave Luke a little pep talk and hoped he would hurry. She delivered Lexi, and I really wanted her here to deliver Luke. She tried to let my water break on its own, but it didn't look like that was happening. I was at 6 cm, and she broke my water. She told me I would start to feel a "little crampy." She said the cramps would then get a little stronger. Whew! Had I only known...

My contractions were about one minute apart at that point. After about the third one, I was looking for focal points! I found a sprinkler head and concentrated on that. Which was stupid. I had much more success by closing my eyes and envisioning something relaxing or funny. I tended to imagine the dogs doing funny things, and it helped. Let me just say, I've passed 2 kidney stones, one in an hour, and the other took several days. I would rate that pain at a 10/10. I would rate those contractions at a 15/10. Seriously. I could barely breathe or focus. You instinctively want to hold your breath, because it hurts so bad. The nurse would say to me, "If you don't breathe, that baby won't get any oxygen either." No matter how much pain I was in, that would set me straight and make me make myself breathe. It feels like having your insides stirred and ripped out with a chainsaw. No exaggeration, people. Ay yi yi. But here's the beauty (or maybe the curse?), I forgot. I totally forget how bad it was almost as soon as he was born! He was so worth it!

I had all that I wanted of the pain. It was a quarter after four in the morning, and I hadn't slept or eaten. I needed some rest before this baby came. I was afraid I would be too exhausted to push. I hit my call light and asked if I could place my order for that epidural. The nurse laughed and said yes. Apparently, they had made bets on how long it would take before I wanted the epidural. Ha! Very funny, guys. I'm sure they do that with all of the moms wanting to wait for the epidural. At least, that's what I was telling myself. 

It was another 30-40 minutes before the CRNA came to administer my epidural!!!!! Ahhhhh it felt like the longest wait ever! My mom and Josh were talking me through the contractions and reminding me to breathe. They allowed only Josh to be present when they placed the epidural, and he had to be 6 feet away. My nurse stayed by my side to talk me through the contractions. She watched on the monitor and let me know when they were coming, peaking, and going away. Thank God! It helped so much. 

The CRNA would be talking to me, and I would start having a contraction and have to block her completely out to focus on breathing and the pain. When I couldn't answer her questions, my nurse would have to tell her that I wasn't listening, because I was having a contraction. The CRNA would tell me how to position and when I couldn't move an inch. It wasn't easy. Too much stimuli. And though this wasn't my first epidural, I was still worried about the risks while it was being done. She bolused me with a "test dosage." It made me sick. It has a narcotic in it. Sometimes, I just don't handle pain medicine well. My blood pressure dropped, I got pale, and I became severely nauseous. I asked my nurse for some Zofran, and took a sub-lingual tablet that I had in my purse in the meantime! I mean I-was-sick.

The epidural didn't take hold of the pain immediately either. It was much more gradual than I'd imagined. The nurse and CRNA stayed with me until I was comfortable. I would tell them when I felt a contraction coming on and when it was going away. Eventually, I was only feeling the peaks (still very intense, just shorter). Then, the peaks suddenly became were very tolerable. Finally! It took about half of an hour to get to that point, though. I was thanking the CRNA pathetically. I had so much relief. I was still able to feel things, though. I could still feel the contractions, and I could easily move and lift my legs. I stayed pretty nauseous the entire time, though. I was only allowed to have ice chips. Which was not a good thing later!

By 8:00 am, no Luke. My OB came in to tell us she that had to leave. She was in tears and wished us well. It was sad to see her go, but everything was going to be ok. My OB let us know that the OB that delivered her baby would be delivering Luke. My nurse was checking my cervix every 30 minutes, I think. I was at six when I had the epidural, and I was progressing well until I hit 9. Then, I had two places on my cervix that were being stubborn. They wouldn't recede, which meant I couldn't start pushing. The nurse laid me on my side telling me that gravity would do the trick for us. Um, gravity is also what makes the epidural "work." Thus, laying on my side started to make my epidural ineffective. I began having intense back pain with my contractions, and I started getting extremely uncomfortable again. I didn't realize it was positioning at the time, though.

The nurse checked my cervix again. One side was cooperating, the other wasn't. So, she put me on my other side for about half of an hour. That's when it got to where I really couldn't stand the pain, so I moved back onto my back. Within a few minutes, the pain started improving. That's when I realized it was a positional issue. The CRNA had told me not to lie flat on my back due to the baby compressing crucial blood vessels and nerves, but she also told me not to lie too far on one side or the epidural would only numb that side. When my nurse came back in, I told her I felt much better on my back. She checked my cervix again and said it was time. Everyone, but Josh, was asked to wait in the waiting room. We all hugged, and they told us good luck.

The last sticker. Bittersweet moment.

I almost get a lump in my throat just thinking back to that moment of them breaking the bed down, and getting ready to start pushing. It's like the moment of truth. The moment I'd been waiting for for months. Admittedly, I was nervous! How was this going to go? How will I push? How long? Will it hurt? Will the baby cry when he's born? Will they hand him to me immediately? What is he going to look like? What if he's not ok? Will he need to go to NICU? How is Josh going to handle this? All of this was going through my head simultaneously. This just added to the nausea. I actually asked Josh to grab me an emesis basin. I thought I was going to throw up. Nerves? The epidural? Probably a combination of both. And it felt like the room was 150 degrees! I had been burning up since I was admitted, so it must have been hormonal. As if I needed one more thing to make me feel like I would throw up. The nurse said women threw up all of the time while pushing. Really?! I didn't want to be one of those women. I wanted to have a dream delivery. Push, push, push, baby is born. Screaming ensues, and a baby is placed on my chest for daddy and I to admire and tell how much we loved him. Nope. Just like my "dream" pregnancy.

So, the bed is officially a delivery bed. Legs are in comfy stirrups. Yeah, I said it, comfy. They truly were, and it wasn't the epidural. The stirrups were thickly padded, and it just felt good to have my legs up and well supported. 

The doctor wasn't even present yet. The nurse sat on a stool and watched the monitor over my knees. She would instruct me when to push, how long to push, when to breathe, and when to stop. I was hot. I was so hot... and nauseous. Another nurse grabbed me an ice pack and put it behind my neck. That helped so much. Josh fanned me with folders. That, too, was amazing. I wish I'd had a handheld fan with a squirt bottle on it. I have one in my pool bag at home that I use in the summer when I'm laying out in the sun. I also used them when I played sports. Why, oh why, didn't I think to bring such a thing?! A friend of mine listed this as one of her hospital bag items for birth. She's a genius. I am not. If there's a next time, that hot item will make the priority list FO SHO!

The baby's heart rate was dropping. I blame the epidural again. They put an oxygen mask on me and cranked it up really high. I felt like I was suffocating in the mask. I had been wearing it since I was dilated to an eight or so. I had to take it off when I started pushing, though. I would have puked in it. It made me 10x hotter. No go, my friends. So, Josh came up with a crafty idea. My nurse would have me take a "cleansing breath" then a deep breath of the oxygen to hold right before a contraction. Josh would hold the mask up to my face (they made me hold my own legs to aid with pushing) let me take a breath, then he'd take it away so that I could exhale. Then he would put it up to my face again to take a deep breath again before holding my breath to push. It was actually genius, because I was "holding in" more O2 during pushing. Like the nurse said, "If you don't breathe, then the baby doesn't get oxygen either." This way, I felt the baby was well taken care of, as far as oxygen goes. It made me feel more confident in holding my breath. 

But I started getting dry mouth. Bad! And I was so thirsty. Remember that stupid hiatal hernia that I complained about that would make me throw up and caused so much pain?! Well, one little sip of water and as soon as I pushed, back up it came. I was all scrunched up in the bed anyway. Add a hiatal hernia to that, and it's a disaster. I would start choking while holding my breath and pushing. Josh, again, to the rescue! He grabbed a bottle of water with a straw, let me take a sip to swish in my mouth, then held up another bottle for me to spit into. That way, I didn't have anything on my stomach to make me sick or hinder pushing, but dry mouth was solved, too. He did this every time between pushes. He was so great. And I pushed forever, it seemed like, with no progress. The nurse said I was doing good and that he was coming, though. It just didn't seem like it. I couldn't feel quite enough to tell... YET.

Once I got to a certain point (a "point" that I cannot define since I have no idea what warranted it), the doctor came in and took over. This was probably after an hour of pushing. Once she came in, the NICU staff came in to set up the baby's stuff beside me. Since I was 36 weeks, they took every precaution for a preemie. I had two NICU nurses, two L&D nurses, the doctor, and Josh all supporting me. They would all tell me how "good" I was doing. They would call me a rock star and a champ. I know it was all psychological, but it worked! It totally worked! I felt like superwoman! It made me feel so good and so confident to hear all that gibberish.

As the baby began to crown, the pain began, as well. I could feel it! I could feel it all. I could feel the contractions, pressure, burning, the desire to push. It was much harder to relax between pushing once it came to this point. I felt like I didn't want to take breaks anymore. I was worried that he might be in distress being in the birth canal so long. I could finally feel when my pushing was making progress and when it wasn't. I knew when to start and when to stop without being told anymore. It still took between 45 minutes and an hour, though. 

As the baby began to crown, all I heard was, "Look at all of that hair!" I was in awe that this was all really happening. Our baby boy was about to finally be in our arms. Or so we thought. The doctor asked Josh if he wanted to see the baby crowning. To my complete and utter dismay, the man excitedly said yes! He didn't even look disturbed by what he saw. His face glowed with excitement and awe. It was a fascinating moment for him and I, both. Then, they told me they had a mirror and asked if I would like to see, too. Hell to no! I would see him soon enough. I could wait. Sheesh. Not a condition I wanted to see myself in.

As the head was being delivered, I had every person in the room standing over me screaming at me to Push! Push! Push! No cleansing breaths. No deep breaths. No breaks. Just Push! It was insanity. I was pushing. I was pushing as hard as I could while the doctor was doing whatever she was doing to deliver him. I seriously felt like I was just assisting. The burning pain was immensely intense, and I felt like I was going to rip apart! That gave me just enough adrenaline to push as hard as I could for as long as I could. It seemed like 10 minutes before he delivered! In reality, it was probably just a minute or so. 

Then, all of a sudden, I saw this baby. This grey, lifeless baby. Josh squeezed my hand, and I looked over at his face. He looked as though he'd seen a ghost. His expression was grim, and he, too, looked suddenly pale. Then, I realized the baby wasn't crying. The NICU team rushed him over to the area they had set up. I looked across the room, to my right, where they had him under a warmer cleaning him off. The nurse was rubbing him vigorously. Just then, came a sound that I will never forget as long as I live. I have tears in my eyes right now reliving that amazing moment. His wail. 

He cried hard and loud. I began to bawl, too. As in snotty, gasping for air bawling. I looked at Josh only to realize he was crying with me. All three of us cried our eyes out in that room. I am typically a very private crier. I hate crying. I feel so vulnerable when I cry. In that moment, however, I cried loud and proud in harmony with my son in front of six people without shame. They were the most joyous tears of my life. I watched diligently as they cleaned him. I soon realized something was wrong, though. 

The nurses were acting strange, and one called the Neonatal Nurse Practitioner from NICU to "get [there] as soon as possible." My gut sank. I looked at Josh. Something was definitely wrong.

The NNP came in and assessed Luke. She came over to the bedside to talk to Josh and I. She said the baby wasn't moving his left shoulder. His grasp was good in that hand, but he wasn't flexing his arm properly. Apparently, his shoulder had gotten "stuck" during delivery and caused an injury. She said there was a possibility his clavicle could have been broken, and that they would do X-rays. My baby could have a broken collarbone?! I was so sad for him. What kind of recovery would that require? She also said he was breathing a little too fast, so they were going to take him straight back to NICU to monitor him. The nurses brought him over, all bundled up, for us to briefly admire. He was so swollen. His eyes were puffy and closed. I touched his soft, little face and told him that I loved him. And there he went. Whisked away from us like he was never ours to begin with. It was bittersweet. 

They asked Josh if he wanted to go with him to NICU. He chose to stay by my side for the time, because I was having complications. The placenta was not delivering properly. If you've ever had a retained placenta, you know the process of delivering it is Hell. The doctor has to go in and manually remove it, chunk by chunk to stop the hemorrhaging. I'm glad Josh was by my side during that time. I also had a first degree laceration needing stitches. Once I was taken care of and on the road to recovery, Josh went to NICU to see Luke. He brought back pictures of him for me. I couldn't stop staring at the pictures. He was just absolutely beautiful to me. I was so in love.

Everyone came in to see us afterwards. It was so unfortunate that there was no baby in the room for everyone to hold and get pictures with. No one begrudged the situation, though. I think I did. I was disappointed that my baby wasn't in my arms and that he was injured. I wanted to go see him. 

Once they discontinued my epidural, I was required to walk to the bathroom with the nurse's assistance. My blood pressure plummeted when I stood up. I felt dizzy, weak, and nauseous. I felt horrible. I was sore and exhausted. But I pushed through it, and did what I had to do to get one step closer to being able to go see Luke.

Due to how invasive it is to manually deliver a placenta (and the possibility of minute parts of it not being removed), I had to receive antibiotics. I was put in a wheelchair and wheeled down to NICU with my IV pole in tote. We were buzzed in through an unmarked door into the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit. We had to do surgical scrub at the door-that is three minutes of soapy scrubbing all the way to the elbows. Then, Josh had to put a hospital gown over his street clothes. Germs are a HUGE deal in such a place, as I'm sure one can imagine. We were taken to his isolette. They were trying to keep him off of oxygen in hopes that he would transition into the well baby nursery soon. Wishful thinking. Josh and I got to hold him and admire him. I wasn't allowed to nurse him, because he was breathing too fast. It posed a risk for aspiration. His oxygen saturation was in the 80s while we were holding him. They wanted it over 95%. Boo. They decided to put him on 1 liter of oxygen while we were holding him. We held him and loved him unconditionally.

And so the NICU adventures begin.